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Why We Fear Honesty
Author : Julia Austin
Submitted : 2011-12-25 13:28:38 Word Count : 517 Popularity: 0
Tags: communication in a relationship, how to communicate with your partner, honesty in relationships, singing lessons, vocal techniques, become a better singer, learning to sing, learn how to sing, how to feel close to your partner
We know that life, in all of his sectors, would go by much smoother if everyone would just communicate. So much time and energy could be saved if we just said what we really felt, what we really wanted, what our intentions were. Instead, we spend a lot of time couching things and trying to put things nicely or properly. That is something to be respected but in the end, there is always miscommunication if you don't just say what you mean, how you mean it.
So, why don't we? Why do we make it seem like we want want someone else wants when we don't? Why do we pretend we are not offended when we are? Or that we are made happy by something when we are not? Here are a few reasons:
Fear of rejection:
If you have a drastically different opinion on something important than most of your friends, or even if you just hate doing something that your friends always do, it can be difficult to tell them. Why? Because isolation is a human's worst fear. They fear that being alone will feel worse than being surrounded by people who you do not agree with. But, once you break through and just say "I don't feel the same way as you" and realize that that person will reject you and that's okay, you can forever after that just stick to saying what you mean. This way, at the end of the day, the people who stick around will be those who are like minded. And ones who you enjoy being around much more than the previous group.
Fear of not being understood:
Sometimes, we don't care what someone's opinion is of us—We just don't believe they'll be worth the effort of explaining anything to. If you have something you are truly passionate about, it takes energy out of you to tell people about it. You feel you give a little piece of yourself away each time you let yourself get worked up and go off on a tangent about that thing you are passionate about. So, when you're talking to someone who you know will not appreciate it or will not fully understand it, you do not communicate at all.
Fear of sounding strange:
It can be as simple as fearing that when we speak, we sound strange. Perhaps you have an accent, or your voice has odd pitches, or your vocabulary is poor. I watched a movie today in which an attractive young singer was telling a voice couch about a tough time he went through when he hesitated to express emotions ever. And I thought "this guy is so cute! What is he so concerned he will be judged over?But he told that it was only once he had suffered an injury to his vocal chords, and he never knew what kind of noise would come out when he talked. The fear of coming off as weird-sounding can be a deeply embedded one. Luckily, the young man in the video fixed the issue through his lessons with this instructor.
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Julia Austin is a dating columnist who also covers luxury lifestyle and healthy living topics for various publications. Her subject matter ranges from eco-friendly hotels to first date tips and even methods on how to improve ones singing and voice techniques.
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